Nobody is happy all the time – even those people who seem to bounce around from dawn ’til dusk. All of us have our down days and we all know that this is all part of the roller-coaster called life. However, when those sad times kick in he can be hard not to mope about watching every second tick past like it’s an hour. If you find yourself stuck with the blues there are things you can do to give yourself a boost while you wait for the period to pass and the sun to come out again.
1.) Step into nature – go for a walk along the seashore, along a lake or through a forest. The physical exercise will do you good as will fresh air and getting out of the house. Additionally, although we don’t fully understand why, surrounding ourselves with natural things seems to work as a mood booster, helping us get things in perspective and elevating our spirits.
2.) Music and movement – put on some energetic music (avoid the sad slow songs) and dance like no-one is watching and your life depended on it. REALLY let yourself go. The combination of the music – which has the ability to lift us even at the most desperate of times – and physical exercise which will get those feel-good hormones pumping round your body can be a potent dark cloud destroyer.
3.) Happy list – make a long list of all the things which make you smile, make you happy and make your heart sing. It can be one word like rainbow/sunshine/wild flowers/chocolate or it can be long descriptions. It’s your list so you get to write it however you like.
4.) De-clutter – sometimes when our thoughts are going round and round and tying themselves in knots and we are full of unsorted and sometimes unnamed excess emotions, one of the simplest things we can do is to get sorting. The physical act of de-cluttering our bedroom/wardrobe/kitchen cupboards etc can be very therapeutic and somehow helps us tidy up and de-clutter our hearts and minds as well. Not quite sure how that one works but it really does – try it.
5.) Home spa – run a long hot bath full of therapeutic uplifting essential oils such as bergamot, neroli or rose and take a long soak. Use that time to treat your hair to some deep conditioning application, your skin to a face mask and then give yourself a manicure and pedicure and whatever else will make your outside feel cleansed and pampered.
6.) Indulgence – do a little (or a lot) of something which you love. Only you can know what counts as indulgence in your book – eating certain foods, buying a new dress, reading a book, going away for a weekend, having a wild night out…….whatever it is do it….guilt free.
7.) Talk – sometimes it can be hard to emerge from the other side of the blues if there is something troubling us. If you know what it is causing your melancholic mood then call up or visit some-one you trust and talk it through with them. Sometimes by just putting our whirling thoughts into words solutions start to present themselves or at least things start becoming less blurred.
Of course should you suffer from any prolonged periods of feeling down then you will need to seek medical attention but for most of us the blues will be short lived. Keep faith that this is simply a tunnel you are in and emerging out the other end is inevitable as long as you keep moving forward. Everyone who has the capacity to feel real joy also has the capacity to experience the flip side of that – it is actually a blessing which this quote from Lebanese poet and writer Kahlil Gibran puts rather beautifully –
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain..When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.