When I was a young girl, I have always been interested in the concept of time travel. I cannot remember how many times I’ve watched the 80’s flick, “Back to the Future” but I’m certain it was at least 40 times. My attraction to the film was probably because of my desire to grow older sooner.
I remember wishing I was already as old as my aunts who were already in their early 20s when I was 7. I and most girls my age had this notion that when you turn 21, you’ll be able to do anything you want, from choosing the clothes you’re going to wear to dating boys. I grew up thinking that 20s is the best decade of life. But I was wrong.
In my 20s, I was undecided about my career path. I did not have the glamorous life I thought I would have by this time. I could barely support myself with the money I was earning as an inexperienced employee. I had my share of bad dates and embarrassing social scenarios that make me cringe now as I recall them. Life definitely got better after 30.
After 30, you’re more confident about yourself
By the time I reached 30, I have already passed through many “firsts” in life–first job, first boyfriend, first failed relationship, first paycheck, even my first promotion. Twenties is definitely the time to experiment and to find out who you really are and what you ought to do. It’s a decade of screwing up on a lot of things as you are going through many experiences for the first time. I learned from my experiences. My exposure to the world and my successes have built my confidence. I have learned to love and trust myself. I embrace my strengths and weaknesses. I can better deal with the world and all its challenges because I know that at the end of the day, I know I can conquer them and I would still have “me.”
After 30, your career is more stable
I got promoted in my 20s but I discovered what I really wanted to do in my 30s. I found not my dream job, but my real calling. I found joy at work and the best thing about it is I get paid for what I really love to do. Work and income became more stable for me at this stage. I did not have my own savings in my 20s, but after 30, I had concrete financial goals and plans. I take my life plan seriously.
After 30, you have stronger relationships
One of the best things about life after 30 is the solid relationships you have built over time. At this point in my life, I have my own family. I know who my real friends are and I treasure them. The time and effort I have invested in my relationships have resulted in solid friendships that are founded on trust. Shared experience has allowed me to get to know other people deeply. I know whom I can depend on.
After 30, you’re more fabulous
For me, women look their best in their 30s. It’s not just because a woman’s features become more defined at this age; it’s about knowing what works well for you and your body. At this point, I know my body better. I know what hairstyles or types of clothing look good on me. I have developed my own sense of style. I did not feel the need to follow trends or imitate fashion icons. I also value my health more, leading me to choose what I eat wisely and to exercise, too. I take vitamin supplements to support my active lifestyle. I do not worry or stress too much, because at this stage, I know that problems are just a phase of life.
The result of all these? I feel and look more fabulous than ever before. The combination of dressing well, taking good care of your health, and being confident makes a woman beautiful and sexy.